Strengthening Your Marriage in Survival Mode: Embracing the Journey Together
Ever feel like the idea of growing closer during tough times in marriage is just too far-fetched? Maybe you're knee-deep in the chaos of life, wondering when you'll even have a moment to ask your loved one about their favorite dessert. Or perhaps work demands have you spending more time apart than together, leaving you both grasping for connection like it's a distant memory of your early dating days.
But hold on a moment. Amidst the whirlwind, here you are, navigating survival mode alongside your beloved, who's right there beside you in the trenches. Understanding marriage as seasons can be a comforting perspective in these challenging times.
Seasons remind us that nothing lasts forever; they provide context and assurance that brighter days will come. It's easy to fall into the trap of thinking, "We'll deal with this when things settle down," postponing dreams like that long-awaited trip to Italy or regular date nights. However, seasons also teach us to equip ourselves for the journey instead of just enduring it.
Preparation is key. Sometimes we can anticipate the storms ahead and brace ourselves accordingly. Yet, there are moments when we find ourselves knee-deep in the struggle before we even realize we're in survival mode. In those times, it's about recognizing the situation and rallying together with your beloved.
Here are some practical steps, whether you're gearing up for a tough season or already in the thick of it:
Prioritize Presence: Consider saying no to other commitments to carve out quality time with your family, allowing you to connect with your beloved without distractions.
Invest in Therapy: Regular therapy sessions can provide a safe space to focus on your marriage and work through challenges together.
Make Date Nights Non-Negotiable: Schedule regular date nights and commit to them, even if it means rearranging other plans. It's vital to prioritize your relationship amidst life's demands.
Start Your Day Together: Set aside anywhere from 5 to 30 minutes each morning to sit and connect with your beloved before the rush of the day begins.
Practice Gratitude: Cultivate a habit of expressing gratitude, especially towards each other. This simple practice can help reduce anxiety and foster a sense of appreciation amidst the chaos.
Above all, remember that your marriage is the foundation, and everything else, including children and community, are the fruits that grow from it. Never fail to return to the sacraments and to prayer together. By strengthening your bond with your beloved, you'll not only enhance your marriage but also experience greater peace and joy in all aspects of life. So, whatever tangible step you choose to take, know that it's worth it—for the sake of your marriage and everything it nurtures.
